Emotional intelligence
Do you want to know more about emotional intelligence? Do you know how powerful emotional intelligence is for the success of everything in your life? These are the tested and proven methods that will help you on your journey with emotional intelligence.
Having emotional intelligence is crucially important. Perhaps, like me, you have been a student of self-growth to be the best version of yourself. Perhaps, you too have been studying to learn as much as you can about emotional intelligence and you want to learn more.
In this post, I am sharing with you the most effective information for gaining emotional intelligence that I and my clients have greatly benefited from.
You are going to learn all about why emotional intelligence is important and what you need to do to develop stronger emotional intelligence.
After learning about this emotional intelligence, you are going to be more prepared to tackle your challenges with greater ease.
This post is all about gaining emotional intelligence so that you can have the life skills that you need for the life that you want.
How to Develop Emotional Intelligence
1) Emotional Intelligence needs Self-regulation
In The Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt, you can learn about the importance of being inner-driven (self-regulation), for the success of a person’s life.
The knowledge that happiness comes from inside of you, that you are in the driver’s seat, shows you that you can go about attaining it. You have the power to be in charge.
Having this knowledge and practicing the habits of self-regulation, is an essential part of emotional intelligence.
People often get into trouble when not being aware of this concept. They look all around in every wrong place and wrong people for it and are left with great disappointment.
This then can further their pursuit of the wrong things, perhaps even in substances or other destructive things to make up for what they cannot find. This is the opposite of having emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is knowing that the happiness that we want comes from inside ourselves. It is about what, how, and who we are being.
And the happiness that we seek comes in addition, from, using who we are to serve our greater whole to be a part of proactive healing, and to create our humanity. Having this knowledge is a powerful emotional intelligence.
I wish that I found Jonathan Haidt’s book as a teenager. It would have saved me decades and decades of failing at happiness by trying to find it in all the wrong places.
2. Emotional Intelligence needs Empathy, self-awareness, motivation, passion
Without empathy, self-awareness, and motivation/passion, emotional intelligence is beyond difficult to have.
Martin Seligman, the author of Flourish, is a thought leader in positive psychology. Positive psychology is the epitome of emotional intelligence.
Positive psychology manifests a growth mindset that helps you to see your potential, which helps you reach for your potential.
Seligman talks about the importance of empathy, self-awareness, and motivation(inspiration) that leads to passionate work, and a life of fulfillment.
Those elements of Emotional intelligence are important ingredients to a life that we can all feel happy in.
Without empathy, your emotional state is incomplete. We are social animals. We thrive in an interrelated state. We can only interrelate optimally and fully with empathy.
Without self-awareness, we stumble through life unable to balance ourselves to function at our best. It is like walking with blinders on, constantly bumping into things and falling into pits.
Self-awareness helps you see your world in the truest clearest light. To see who you are lets you see how you are relating to your world.
And without motivation or passion for things in life, your life is flavorless and boring like food with no salt: blah.
People run away from these emotional states thinking they are too much work or lead them to being too vulnerable, but they are, enjoyable, thrilling, and most of all essential if you want a life of emotional intelligence: a life of true life success.
3. Emotional Intelligence needs Social skills
All relationships are about giving and taking. Understanding this will give you the boss’s level of social skills.
Robert B Cialdini, the author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion talks about the power this affects in people who want to be successful salespeople in the business.
In truth, this powerfully applies to us mere mortals who are trying to have good, loving, meaningful relationships with one another. Our desire is kept from us when we don’t understand this very crucial social skill often due to fears of things.
We fear losing out. We fear being made a fool of. We fear being not lovable.
Look around and notice constant complaints of single people, about the trustworthiness of their potential mates and see their inability to attract and keep a healthy giving-and-taking relationship.
They don’t realize their inability to trust and give unconditionally which produces the negative result that they are stuck with. This is not emotional intelligence. This behavior leads to poor social skills and that leads to a lack of rewarding relationships, personal and business.
All of these fears then cause us to manifest that very thing that we fear because we produce in others the opposite reaction to what Cialdini is teaching us to do.
He is teaching us about the power of giving, and the power of being given to. What he is specifically talking about is the power of giving in an unconditional manner that produces the same response.
You have the power to give unconditionally when you give from your heart.
You can learn how to give from the heart with the mindful practice of giving from the heart.
This post was all about how to have emotional intelligence to be your most successful self in your personal and business life.
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