Victim Mentality
If you feel that life is picking on you, that everyone seems to be picking on you, and you have been feeling this way for just too long, you may have a victim mentality. I know this experience only too well because I used to feel that way too.
I used to feel like life was picking on me.
My neighbor was mean, my partner was not supportive and I had abusive parents growing up.
It seemed everywhere I turned I could not get a break.
All of that changed one day when I decided that everything had to change.
My internal world began to change and my external world followed like a loyal friend.
This post is all about teaching you how to move beyond the victim mentality so that you can be truly free.
How to move beyond victim mentality
How victim mentality damages your life
- stuck
- be unattractive to people
- repel good things in life
- feel sorry for yourself
- be unfulfilled
- feel less than good self-esteem
- narcissistic
- make yourself unhappy
- cause unhappiness in others
- be needy
- feel lonely
We have all seen people who act mean, defensive, and harsh in fear of getting hurt and by doing so reinforce their negative belief that no one truly loves them and that people only hurt them.
Many never go for anything because they don’t think they can ever have good things in life. These people also don’t see good things in life even when they are banging them over their heads. They miss them and wonder why good things never happen to them.
How the opposite mentality (hero’s mentality) can affect your life
- feel a sense of personal power
- get to experience the thrills of life
- are courageous
- self-trust
- faith of others
- others trust you
- self-efficacy
- happiness in life
- joy in life
- can experience the best possible life
When you have a hero’s mindset you are courageous enough to be vulnerable and ready for life. You are not afraid or if you are, you know that you will face life as it comes.
As a hero of your life, you look for solutions and don’t drown in the flaws of the past. You move and feel the thrill of the journey and dust yourself off if you take a tumble. Getting up and going again is what you do because you know that when you don’t, that is how you lose.
You don’t lose because you keep going without quitting.
How to have a hero’s mentality (hero’s mindset)
- decide
- proactive
- be a participant in creating the good
- unconditional
- let go of expectations
- know who you want to be
- practice solution finding
- don’t dwell in regrets
- gain a growth mindset
Alan Watts talks about a woman who never takes a chance on love again after her heart gets broken in his book, The Wisdom of Insecurity.
The woman is trying to protect her heart but instead, her heart shrinks inside a shield of her creation eventually dying of lack of love. This portrayal is a perfect metaphor for how a person with a victim mentality lives out their life.
Instead of living inside a shield that dries you up and shields you from real life, by being a hero, you can save your own life and by doing so save others’ lives as well.
This post was all about the Importance of having a hero’s mindset instead of a victim’s mindset so that you can live your best life.
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