How to be Patient
They say that patience is a virtue. Patience is also a powerful life tool that helps you to be not only a kind person but also a powerfully effective and emotionally intelligent person. It is well worth our time to learn how to be patient for those reasons and more.
When you lose patience with someone and you act in ways that are not kind and hurt their feelings, you don’t feel too good about yourself.
When you lose patience with yourself, you don’t fare any better either.
The skill of patience does not only belong to the wise sages but all of us.
We need it for our own happiness and we need it so that we can help to heal our world.
This post is about how we can become more patient so that we can all live better lives and be our best.
How to be patient
What life looks like without patience
- stress
- problem in relating to others
- low self-esteem
- lack of wisdom
- lack of good health
- unattractive
- unhappiness
- chaos in one’s life
Life without patience is an uncomfortable one. You might have a meltdown or might have hurt someone in ways that you cannot feel good about. This in turn wears on your self-esteem.
In addition, your reputation in the minds of others does not promote a healthy and loving relationship. Life without patience is a life full of regrets and unhappiness, that you cause and you are left with in the short and long run.
What life looks like with patience
- peace and calm
- ease of things working out
- self-love and love of others
- attractive
- healthy relationship with self and others
- happiness
- better health
- fulfillment
- better life
When you are a person with patience, your life is virtuous. It is virtuous because you are not hurting anyone including yourself. It is not an easy thing to learn because we are all emotional animals but when you do learn, you don’t want your life in any other way.
How to be patient
- be self-aware of your judgments
- give yourself unconditional self-compassion
- mindful of getting good sleep
- excellent self-care
- be mindful of your body chemistry… keep it as healthy as possible
- mindfulness practice
- meditate
- be good to yourself
- study the moments when you lose patience and gain an understanding of why
- if you are judging a person, how does it reflect on who you want to be?
- if you are feeling hurt or resentful, is what the other person is doing truly worthy of taking it personally?
- Is what that person is doing something that inflicts something negative on your life or are you concerned about how others will see your person or you together?
Are you assessing the situation at hand correctly? What meaning are you putting on the behavior of others that is incorrect? Are you taking good care of yourself?
When you are taking good care of yourself and actively practicing unconditional self-love, deep self-compassion, and radical acceptance, you are creating an inner space for yourself from which you can easily be patient with all whom you love, including yourself.
Learning how to become patient is a worthy journey for you to become a genuinely loving person and the side effect is that you, yourself become the happier and wiser person that you have always wanted to be. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.
This post was about being patient so that you can be your most powerfully effective person.
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