Toxic Shame
If something that you did in your past, a mistake that you made hunts you and makes you feel that you don’t truly deserve what is good, you may be a victim of toxic shame.
Living with shame is poisonous to your emotional health.
I am not advocating that you don’t feel guilt when you do something wrong because guilt is there to guide us away from repeating the wrong that we did.
What we must do is to go through the process of learning why we made the mistakes and clarify how we will do things differently then take the steps to make sure we follow through.
Once we have processed it, then we must take steps to ensure our guilt does not mutate into a toxic shame no matter what.
This post is about how to get free of toxic shame so that we can be free to be our best selves.
How to get free of the Toxic Shame
What toxic shame can do
- keep you from your true success
- stops you from living your best life
- make you feel unworthy of love
- accept far less than what you deserve from people and work
- put up with abuse from people
- feel unhappy
- be arrested in development
- makes you lose out on opportunities
- attract bad things
- repel good things
When you have this shame in your life, your life is locked in a time capsule of negative memories of a past that may not even be the way you now remember it. As you remain in that space, you remain stuck.
You will accept far less than what makes you happy in life from life: low wages, bad relationships, quality of your health, etc.
Until you get rid of this toxic element from your life, you will not be free to be your true and best self.
What being free of this shame can do for you
- have a sense of peace
- free to succeed
- have a good self-esteem
- have emotional intelligence
- feel self-empowered
- have self-love
- be optimally healthy
- attract good people and good things into your life
Getting free of this shame frees you to be a human being that you have the birthright to be. Your optimal self wants to create, explore, and live. when I say “live” I mean to truly live to your potential. You are meant to manifest your heart’s desire and more!
When you are free from the imprisonment of this terrible shame, you can let your potential fill out limitlessly.
How to get free of toxic shame
- begin practicing good self-care
- learn how to love yourself
- practice unconditional self-acceptance
- unconditionally, and with self-compassion, forgive yourself
- Begin practicing self-compassion
- practice Radical acceptance
When you have been living with this terrible shame, you have been riddling down your sense of yourself. In some ways, you have been living a life as an emotional skeleton. You will need to begin to grow back all of the emotional parts that you have lost touch with.
Beginning a good self-care routine, self-love practice, self-compassion, self-acceptance, and radical acceptance will give you the emotional foundation that you need to stand on so that you can be ready to forgive yourself and set yourself free.
With your emotional foundation firmly under you, you forgive yourself of your past by unconditionally accepting who you are no matter what, all your flaws, all your mistakes, and all things that you have judged to be bad or not good enough.
Keep unconditionally accepting yourself of all that you have done or not done until you no longer feel ashamed but in that place a sense of understanding and acceptance that you are a human being and that EVERY SINGLE PERSON on this planet deserves to be forgiven and loved, so do you.
By getting free of toxic shame you free yourself to truly love yourself and others that you care about.
This post was about how to get free of toxic shame so that you can be your happiest self.
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