Fear of abandonment was my Achilles heel for the longest time. Understanding it within myself and healing it correctly has given me the life tools that I utilize to bring me back to my center if I ever fall into it again.

Were you abandoned or abused as a child? If you had, you may have or still do experience fear of abandonment from time to time.

I have dealt with it all my life and if it rears its head now, I have the tools to rule over it.

The techniques are simple.

It just takes time and more importantly, the right foundation-building practice.

This post is all about teaching you how to become the boss of the fear of abandonment so that you can live free of this fear.

How to become the boss of the fear of abandonment

What could cause fear of abandonment

left as a child
neglected as a child
abused
rejected in some way
loss of someone

We all have a degree of this fear. Fear of being rejected and thrown out of safety dwells inside our ancient brains. We had to avoid being left behind by a larger group to avoid getting eaten by predators.

When this fear is greater than the base amount that we have in our ancient brains, it could be that we had a traumatic experience in our childhood that caused us to feel is fear.

You have this fear because you may have been left or made to feel uncared for or abused in varying degrees by your guardians.

What Fear of Abandonment does to your life

emotional instability
put up with bad relationships
stop you from living a full potential life
make you live an illogical life
be needy
get emotionally stuck
sabotage relationships

The fear of abandonment has immense power over your life.

You may get stuck in bad situations. You might stay in an abusive relationship or you may refrain from doing things you love because you fear losing someone.

Fear of abandonment can also make you act in ways that cause pain in those you care about and they may leave you.

Ultimately, if you don’t learn how to become the boss of this fear, it will remain the boss of your life.

How to overcome the fear of abandonment

self-love practice
excellent sefl-care
build self-trust
spend time alone
follow your bliss
get on your hero’s journey
unconditional self-acceptance
self-forgiveness

First and foremost, you must learn how to become self-reliant through deep self-love. It would be best if you learn that you can count on yourself and that you will not abandon yourself.

The reason for your need to learn to stop abandoning yourself is that during your childhood trauma, you had begun to abandon yourself, and undoing that will empower you to do the rest of the healing that you need.

As an adult, I learned that I can be there for myself to overcome this fear. Loving and caring for myself gives me the stability and strength to move through times when this fear rears its ugly head.

You can do the same!

I am here to help!

This post was all about the Importance of becoming the boss of the fear of abandonment so that you can be your most empowered self.