We can all get triggered by external events to different degrees from time to time. If we learn how to deal with triggers in proactive ways, we can add to who we are becoming in a powerfully positive way.

I used to try my best to avoid people and things that trigger negative emotions. Either that or I helplessly struggled to try and get them to stop doing things that made me feel triggered.

What I finally learned is that avoiding those things is not always possible and trying to affect the behaviors of others is not only fruitless and frustrating and may even be harmful.

I was not only losing out on opportunities for real growth but also running in place, having no power to affect any change.

What I had to do was to learn how to deal with them in ways that offered me real growth.

This post is about learning how to deal with triggers in ways that you can help yourself become more empowered not in spite of them but because of them.

How to deal with triggers

What if you don’t learn how to deal with your triggers in an empowering way

continue to struggle
suffer losing control
don’t have power over yourself
get hurt
hurt others
get stuck
being a victim of circumstances
not grow
stress
unhappiness
losing opportunities of varying kinds

If you don’t learn how to deal with your triggers, you cannot help but be a victim, a puppet to all that goes on around you. No matter if actions and things are intentional, you remain victim to circumstances, waiting for others and the outside world to change so that you can be ok.

When the outside world does not change for you, you are then stuck being not ok.

When you live that way, your life is not under your leadership, but the power of exterior stimuli. And there will always be exterior stimuli that you cannot control.

You can ask and ask, but too often end up feeling frustrated and defeated.

What happens if you learn how to deal with triggers in a proactive way

have more self-control
learn about your powers
be empowered
power over action and reactions
more success
be happy
healthier
better relationships
peace and calm
self-growth

When you start learning how to deal with triggers, you are empowering yourself in ways that gain you so much while curtailing the continual loss of good things from your life.

Once you begin learning how you will never want to go back to how your life has been and only want to learn more and more.

As you learn more you begin to see that you have far more power over your life than you knew and much learning will begin to happen spontaneously with less and less effort making you feel grateful that you have begun this journey of positive learning.

Your life will be your own.

How to deal with your triggers

take charge of your own emotions
study every trigger
- what meaning do you have attached to them?
- learn what those things actually mean, not what you think they mean
- find the real truth about them
be an active student of your emotional state
settle for no less than the real truth, not what you have attached, but the real truth
face truth even if it is scary or painful and put them out in the sunlight so that you can heal them FOR GOOD

Stoic philosophers teach us that the meaning we attach to a thing hurts us and not the actual thing. It is the most powerful thing that I adopted into my life.

We all have different triggers with different levels of power over us. It doesn’t have to be that way. We just need to attach the truest meaning to them so that they are no longer personal or fear-causing.

It is about choosing peace and happiness and not emotional junk that harms us.

Being on the journey of taking charge of your own emotions gives you the power that you deserve and knowing that you have the power puts you on a trajectory of life that you never knew that you could have.

I am here to help!

This post was about learning to deal with triggers so that you can be your most empowered self.